Reaching out
- catherine2222
- Jun 5
- 2 min read
In this email:
Hello !
“How are you?”
“I am good, how are you?” Meanwhile you are thinking about how you reacted that morning to your kid just before dropping them off at school and instantly regretted it. Or you are thinking about how gutted you actually feel because you just lost your best friend. I have too. That automatic response acts as a great barrier to not “burden anyone”. I am not saying we need to just rip ourselves open to everyone who asks that question. However it is these types of interactions that shape how we reach out. Reaching out is the way to get yourself through the hard times. When we try to “pull ourselves up by our bootstraps” this not only delays our clarity but it can bring us deeper into our own self sabotaging. We are pack animals and seriously we need each other to heal. Lately fear has been setting in about the future. I am not sharing this because I want sympathy but I am sharing this because my ingrained tendency is to “deal with it alone”. When I was feeling the heaviness one afternoon and tears were welling up I realized “I am doing this again, I am trying to deal with this alone.” I reached out to my mentor and while I was writing the email, I shed tears and felt lighter immediately. When I received a reply from her, I felt stronger. I opened up my heart to those who I trust in my life to help carry the load, release the fears and create space within. Then I thought about who else I could trust to hold space for me: Friends Colleagues Hypnotherapist Coach Because doing this alone is not how I choose to do it anymore. I choose to stay open and process my life with the ones that I know have the capacity to support me where I am at. Because when I don’t? My world closes. Life feels darker. I feel alone and I cower away in my own bubble - and that only makes matters worse. Here’s what I’ll ask you: think of one person you trust, just one. The next time they ask “how are you?” - tell them the real answer. You don’t have to unload everything. Just crack the door open. That’s how the light gets in. And the next time someone asks me? I’m going to tell them the truth. Will you? |
With health,
Catherine
Wellness Mentor | Massage Therapist
ASL & English
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