Staying Silent Degrades Your Soul

In this blog:

• Your Truth

• One on One Wellness Support

  My palms were sweaty. My chest tightened. A feeling of danger enveloped my entire being. And I hadn’t even spoken yet.

  
  

  I was choosing to do something different than I had ever done in a partnership before - speak my true feelings even if it meant triggering his insecurities and creating discomfort between the both of us.

  
  

  Sometimes there are things we have to say because we have to honor our true feelings.  It’s too easy to put ourselves aside and dodge the conversation for the sake of peace.

  
  

  I yearned for a life of living in my complete truth.

  
  

  Stepping into the unknown in honoring yourself is not an easy path.  

  
  

  Staying silent degrades your soul.

  
  

  I gave myself grace and properly planned out in a nonviolent communication style the facts, my feelings, my needs and my request. 

  
  

  Ready to meet any defensiveness with compassion and understanding of his unspoken needs.

  
  

  When the day came that I decided to take the brave step of opening up, I explained what I was about to bring up is something I’ve never addressed with anyone because it was uncomfortable. I confessed I was scared and felt super vulnerable. I asked to be heard. 

  
  

  The conversation was tough, I felt it in my chest deep in my heart and my eyes as tears welled up.

  
  

  I saw his face and body soften.  I also saw his body protect when the tough words came out.  

  
  

  I stayed with the uncomfortable feelings, allowed the long pauses between responses to get to the depths of how I was truly feeling instead of running an old program. 

  
  

  This was not easy but in the end, it was a relief.

  
  

  At times we heard one another, we misunderstood, we held compassion and insecurities came up on both ends.  

  
  

  One brave step leads to the next brave step.

  
  

  Breaking old patterns and becoming who we truly are takes bravery because it is always scary.

  
  

  Most people carry at least one conversation they’ve been avoiding, one truth sitting in their chest.

  
  

  If you read this and felt something stir - a conversation you’ve been holding back, a pattern you keep circling - I’d love to talk.  

  
  

  I’m offering a complimentary call to explore what’s underneath and see if working together feels right.

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With health,

Catherine

Wellness Mentor | Massage Therapist

ASL & English

• P.S. That conversation four years ago? It changed everything.  Not because it was perfect - but because I finally chose myself.

C+C @ Meow Wolf